For me, I guess this really comes down to how an individual defines feminine, because the Western cultural definition of feminine applies to expectations of what it means to be female/what it means to be a woman, just as much as masculinity comes down to what it means to be male/what it means to be a man and for me, such things are nonsense-since they get narrowed down to interests, occupation and appearance when being male and being female has to do with the biological, not the external physical and definitely not loving the color pink (for women).
For me, a woman is a feminist once she supports women's rights, but a woman represents feminism depending on how she carries herself, masculine and feminine don't exist, their just apart of social structure. A woman is just a woman, feminine and masculine don't apply.
Same here, but I don't pain my nails because it looks like I spilled the bottle on my hands and I usually don't wear pink. My old room was painted pink and I had to stare at it for 5 years! I used to like pink, but staring at it for hours on end it gets kinda disgusting.
YES! I'm sick of the notion that you can't be feminine AND feminist. I like pink, I paint my nails, I cook, I like to stay at home, and I still support equal rights between men and women. I'm hoping or equal pay too!
It gets irritating when girls who consider themselves feminists and believe in strong women bitch at the idea of a girl being feminine. They're totally missing the point!
They assume that any female character in literature, on TV, etc. who is a "girly girl" is automatically weak, whether or not she really is. The only "cool" and "strong" female characters are the tomboys who hate pink and make-up, therefore implying that for a woman to be strong, she must be like a man. That in itself is a bit sexist in my opinion.
I'm quite happy to see that there are some like-minded people out there.
Yeah, it's unfortunate that the word "feminist" is only equated with the whole tomboyish, angry, man-hating stereotype. Feminists come in all shapes and forms (including the one I mentioned, of course).
That's why I was a big fan of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, actually. She was pretty feminine, but still kicked a lot of ass (literally and figuratively, heh).
The first time I watched that show, I remember feeling so happy and peaceful about myself, and despite not being a superhero, I felt quite powerful (: It was kind of cool to feel that for the first time.
I think that in a place where there's no such thing as man or woman, there would be no such thing as feminism or femininity (or masculinity) either, so the two being exclusive wouldn't really be an issue.
Thanks for your perspective on the matter, it's good to hear from multiple points of view.
To me, that is feminism. Feminism is as extreme equality as possible. Feminism isn't about men respecting women and women respecting men, it's about realising that the differences between men and women are greatly overestimated, we're practically the same.